God is soooooo funny. I just love how he challenges me to think outside of the box. Indeed, his ways are higher than our ways (Isa 55:9).
So, I am helping the Women’s Ministry at Church on their “Connect Team” to get women plugged into the different community groups and church life that is going on. The Pastor says “all roads lead to community groups”. He went on to state that it’s not the “check the box I’m in the group” per se but it is the importance of what the group provides. It’s that shelter and covering and protection of the brethren right?
So, here is the funny part. The third or fourth lady that I came across that is new and doesn’t have a fit is living a gay lifestyle. Now maybe that’s not funny to you. But that’s laugh out loud funny to me. I mean honestly, I like a challenge, but it just seems to me that she would want to retreat. Fear of Christians maybe. Or of being judged. I don’t know really. And then God hit me over the head with a frying pan and I saw stars. Well, ok it wasn’t that brutal. But it was legitimate.
ALL sexual sin is the same. Whether it is adultery, lust such as viewing pornography, premarital sex or homosexuality. And I don’t know the exact percentage, but I would say MOST people in church have engaged in sexual impurity. It’s just some sexual impurity is socially acceptable while others are not. Yep. It’s a double standard.
And while I was having this dialogue with God and thinking about who might be a good fit, I saw the new Women’s Ministry Blog posted Nov 11 which said “I am currently in a season where I have seen unprecedented attacks on people I love dearly… 5 Christian, word-believing women in my life are having affairs”… The blog post before that on Nov 5 is entitled “Dates & Pornography Q&A” and shared Lysa Terkeurst’s blog about pornography because so many women, including women at our church, are needing help with how to handle their husbands viewing pornography.
The reality is that sexual impurity is ALL OVER the place. Not just in the world but in the church too. We are not going to be able to “get away” from it. There is no safe place to be protected from it. Our kids are going to be around it. So. we are going to have to deal with it. It’s a spiritual issue and is going to have to be addressed in the church. And ladies…. WE are the church. So how are WE going to deal with it?
(1) We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. (2) I am NOT the Judge nor the Holy Spirit. (3) Only God can change the hearts of people. (4) Our purpose is to seek and save that which is lost. Loving, accepting and helping the person is very very important. (5) We are called to speak the truth IN LOVE. We (myself included) have no problem speaking truth but it’s the “in love” part that we don’t necessarily get in check sometimes. We tend to spew truth having really no concern for the person we spew truth about (or maybe we spew hate though we call it a hate for sin).
And honestly, it doesn’t have to be sexual impurity. This call to love (our love walk) can be a woman who is infertile being called to love a woman who had an abortion last week. It can be a wife called to stay with and love her husband who had an affair. Our personal love walks, the one God has asked us to walk on, can look many different ways.
As I was talking to God about all of this, he reminded me: ”Then Jesus told this story to some who had great confidence in their own righteousness and scorned everyone else: Two men went to the Temple to pray, One was a Pharisee, and the other was a despised tax collector. The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed this prayer: I thank you God, that I am not a sinner like everyone else. For I don’t cheat, I don’t sin, and I don’t commit adultery. I’m certainly not like that tax collector! I fast twice a week, and I give you a tenth of my income. But the tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed. Instead, he beat his chest in sorrow, saying ‘O God, be merciful to me, for I am a sinner.’ I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee, returned home justified before God. For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Luke 18:9-14.
Oh Lord I’m so humbled. I do know how I was BC (before Christ) versus how I am now and just how patient and long-suffering and gentle you were with me while you were working on me to transform me from the inside out. After all, what people see on the outside is just a reflection of what is in that persons heart. And YOU are in the heart cleansing business.
God, in these last days, you are going to have to give us your heart in order that we may love like you want us to love.
Please show us what you would have us to do for you.