Sexual Impurity & Christianity

God is soooooo funny.  I just love how he challenges me to think outside of the box.  Indeed, his ways are higher than our ways (Isa 55:9).

So, I am helping the Women’s Ministry at Church on their “Connect Team” to get women plugged into the different community groups and church life that is going on.  The Pastor says “all roads lead to community groups”.  He went on to state that it’s not the “check the box I’m in the group” per se but it is the importance of what the group provides.  It’s that shelter and covering and protection of the brethren right?

So, here is the funny part.  The third or fourth lady that I came across that is new and doesn’t have a fit is living a gay lifestyle.  Now maybe that’s not funny to you.  But that’s laugh out loud funny to me.  I mean honestly, I like a challenge, but it just seems to me that she would want to retreat.  Fear of Christians maybe. Or of being judged.  I don’t know really.  And then God hit me over the head with a frying pan and I saw stars.  Well, ok it wasn’t that brutal.  But it was legitimate.

ALL sexual sin is the same.  Whether it is adultery, lust such as viewing pornography, premarital sex or homosexuality.  And I don’t know the exact percentage, but I would say MOST people in church have engaged in sexual impurity.  It’s just some sexual impurity is socially acceptable while others are not.  Yep.  It’s a double standard.

And while I was having this dialogue with God and thinking about who might be a good fit, I saw the new Women’s Ministry Blog posted Nov 11 which said “I am currently in a season where I have seen unprecedented attacks on people I love dearly… 5 Christian, word-believing women in my life are having affairs”… The blog post before that on Nov 5 is entitled “Dates & Pornography Q&A” and shared Lysa Terkeurst’s blog about pornography because so many women, including women at our church, are needing help with how to handle their husbands viewing pornography.

The reality is that sexual impurity is ALL OVER the place.  Not just in the world but in the church too.  We are not going to be able to “get away” from it.  There is no safe place to be protected from it.  Our kids are going to be around it.  So. we are going to have to deal with it.  It’s a spiritual issue and is going to have to be addressed in the church.  And ladies…. WE are the church.  So how are WE going to deal with it?

(1) We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. (2) I am NOT the Judge nor the Holy Spirit. (3) Only God can change the hearts of people.  (4)  Our purpose is to seek and save that which is lost.  Loving, accepting and helping the person is very very important.  (5)  We are called to speak the truth IN LOVE.  We (myself included) have no problem speaking truth but it’s the “in love” part that we don’t necessarily get in check sometimes.  We tend to spew truth having really no concern for the person we spew truth about (or maybe we spew hate though we call it a hate for sin).

And honestly, it doesn’t have to be sexual impurity.  This call to love (our love walk) can be a woman who is infertile being called to love a woman who had an abortion last week.  It can be a wife called to stay with and love her husband who had an affair.  Our personal love walks, the one God has asked us to walk on, can look many different ways.

As I was talking to God about all of this, he reminded me:  ”Then Jesus told this story to some who had great confidence in their own righteousness and scorned everyone else:  Two men went to the Temple to pray,  One was a Pharisee, and the other was a despised tax collector.  The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed this prayer: I thank you God, that I am not a sinner like everyone else.  For I don’t cheat, I don’t sin, and I don’t commit adultery.  I’m certainly not like that tax collector!  I fast twice a week, and I give you a tenth of my income.  But the tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed.  Instead, he beat his chest in sorrow, saying ‘O God, be merciful to me, for I am a sinner.’ I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee, returned home justified before God.  For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”  Luke 18:9-14.

Oh Lord I’m so humbled.  I do know how I was BC (before Christ) versus how I am now and just how patient and long-suffering and gentle you were with me while you were working on me to transform me from the inside out.  After all, what people see on the outside is just a reflection of what is in that persons heart.  And YOU are in the heart cleansing business.

God, in these last days, you are going to have to give us your heart in order that we may love like you want us to love.

Please show us what you would have us to do for you.

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4 Responses to Sexual Impurity & Christianity

  1. Linda Leavell says:

    Jennifer, I love how you search for the answers! You encourage me to be bold in speaking God’s Word, and that’s something that I have been praying about a long time! God bless you in all that you “step out of the box” to do!

  2. Fantasti post but I was wanting to know if you could write a litte more on this subject?
    I’d be very thankful if you could elaborate a little bit more.
    Bless you!

    • godizreal says:

      My blog is really just a journal of my thoughts and that is all that I had to add to that event that day. As for how I handled the situation, I messaged the pastor and let him know that this person wanted to get plugged in but felt like she would not be wanted. He agreed to meet with her himself and answer any questions that she had. She did set up 2-3 sessions with him and loved it. I think he handled it with excellence.

      My personal opinion is that most churches DO NOT equip their leadership to handle the tough situations and many “religious people” (especially in church leadership) do not have a heart for “sinners” and tend to see themselves as “better” than others. Or, they are scared to address tough topics out of fear of offending people. Most of the time leadership is the problem and leadership is the answer.

      My personal hope is that people will walk this faith walk and love walk between themselves and God. Once you spend some time alone with God really seeking after Him, the rest falls into place.

      If there was anything specific you wanted to know, just let me know and I’ll try to answer you. Thanks!

  3. godizreal says:

    Reblogged this on godizreal and commented:

    Ok ya’ll. The Hubster and I have met 3 lesbians in the past week and 2 of them had the same story. “My Mormon parents keep telling me I’m going to hell. I just wish I was dead. They will never accept me.” “My Dad is a Southern Baptist and lives on the theory of praying the gay away. He will never accept me.”

    I am so sick and tired of religious people beating the ever living hell out of gay people. Sin is sin is sin. My bible says that NO ONE is righteous NO NOT ONE!!! So why in the world do “Christians” keep bullying gays and lesbians?

    When I converted to Christianity (from an agnostic), I was married (for the 3rd time) and in an adulterous relationship. I was literally the woman at the well. I was called a slut. Looked down upon. Shunned. Even by my own family. HOWEVER, if God’s love could extend to ME, and it did, God’s love can extend to anyone. God’s grace, love and endless mercy does not stop because someone is in a same sex relationship.

    To my son’s best friend (who is a lesbian), don’t you EVER let church going religious people tell you that you are going to hell. And if they do, you remind them that according to the Bible, ALL people are going to hell BUT FOR CHRIST.

    Geez… I’m so over the hatred already. #Annoyed

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